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"Kids won't cherish toys as much as the memory you give them by letting them know they matter."
Archie Wortham
from his "How's Your Burberry?"
18 December Christmas Column

“When people are feeling insecure, they’d rather have someone who is strong and wrong rather than somebody who is weak and right.”

Happy New Year. During the upcoming year, we'll get to know each other better. As you read this more about my family, and me you will discover I am a father of two boys who talks about the struggles of parenting them. It’s as much a struggle for them as it is for me [with their mom] to try and parent them.

I’m a baby-boomer. I married late [32] the one girl who finally stopped me in my track. I’m one of those die-hard romantic that fell in love on the spot. For the last 20 years, with the help of our sons, particular our 12-year-old [Jeremy], she’s been helping me see the errors of my ways.

Periodically, I’ll talk about what I’ve learned about being a father, the pitfalls of being a father, and most importantly, the pitfalls of being a man who’s finally “getting” it. I’m just a dad, who unlike our former president comments to a Democratic Leadership Council meeting at New York University, prefers our sons listen to someone who tries to be strong and right, though society might see me as weak and right.

Fathers have a difficult task. Everyday we fight deficit-modeling images of being absent, silent, macho, and if you would listen to Clinton, grab at a gravitas of strength, without care of our ethics. Growing up in a surrounding where men and boys are harangued, it’s an almost impossible dream to make sure our boys are respected in a society that blames their dads for them being the way they are. Can we change this? Yes. How? One day at a time, and one dad at a time.

I have few answers. You will hear how stupid I can be. You will witness how weak I can be, despite my desire to be smart and strong. Above all, what I hope you will hear is that I love my sons’ mother and I love my sons. You will learn I have a spiritual connection to them, and other men that hopefully will enable me to connect with you and them in some way as I try to do the right things.

Some of what you read by me, might anger some of you. I will extol some of you. Some of you will see yourselves, and think I’m peering into your homes. You will wonder why I’m picking on you. To this I say! Good. If you get angry, that means you care. If you’re doing some of the things I recommend that my wife, my kids, or other fathers recommend or have done? Good! And for those of you who think I’m peering into your windows, or wiretapping your phones, remember, you’re just getting a view of what life is like at our home. And for those who feel you are being picked on, grow up. Realize, you are just someone who is strong and wrong, and wants to be weak and right.

I learn by listening…20 years I’ve learned to take this in stride. I want to hear from you so feel free to e-mail me at awortham@flash.net. I want to be your friend. Dads need friends. It takes a strong man to admit that sometimes, only a man knows the pain that might make another man cry because he’s hurt.

I’ll share my pain, hopefully it might lessen yours, and continue to help men to father a way no one taught us, as Drew Bledsoe says in his book “It is better to light one candle than to sit and curse the darkness!” Remember, one dad and one day at a time!

"Remember that you are needed. There is at least one important work to be done that will not be done unless you do it."
-Charles Allen
from Always My Dad calendar

Come on guys, splurge on your woman!

Hey, you never know unless you try!

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10 Things They Don't Tell New Dads
1. You'll gain "sympathy weight" with your pregnant wife, so you can help each other with exercise and a healthy diet after the baby is born.

2. You'll miss your favorite team's games. The sooner you come to grips with that, the better, because you'll find no sympathy at home.

3. Keep your chest hair covered. Your baby will mercilessly pull it out.

4. There's almost nothing that can't be solved with a little game of peekaboo.

5. Surprise! Your mother-in-law is about to come in handy. Really.

6. You're going to have less sex. (No, wait. They probably told you that already, didn't they?)

7. Other parents will relish telling you how having a baby will take all of the fun out of your life. Ignore them.

8. No one will take your newborn away from you if you sit him on your lap and watch Rocky III. Maybe someone should, but they won't.

9. If your wife is breastfeeding, she'll be dehydrated, so think of yourself as a waiter: Your job, every few minutes, is to come by and refill her water glass.

10. You may have seen the sun rise over the Grand Canyon. You may have honeymooned at Niagara Falls. No matter. You will never see anything more beautiful in your travels - there may never have been anything more beautiful - than your wife asleep in bed with your baby resting beside her.

adapted by Babytalk magazine